Make the Most of Anything

by Amy on May 23, 2013

Time moves. Quickly. Quite unfairly, it often appears to speed up the older you are.

But there is a way to combat that time-fly that doesn’t involve a time machine. It’s being fully in your life today. Moving right in, inhabiting your moments and experiences.

Here’s an easy rule of thumb:

Experiencing your thinking about life = time goes quickly and you’re unfulfilled, feeling like you missed something.

Experiencing life as it comes = time seems to move more slowly and you feel like you’ve just had a rich and meaningful experience.

There’s more in the video. I talk about “summer” here, but that’s just code for “life” (Timeliness and relevance are important to the media; I’m just playing by their rules…sort of.)

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Do you need to heal your past?

by Amy on May 16, 2013

Do you think there is something from your past that needs to be healed?

I used to believe that the past required healing. But when you think about it, how could that be?

The past is over. It’s nonexistent today. How could something that doesn’t exist need anything?

The past only comes up today in your thinking about it. It’s there, I’m not denying that. I’m sure you have current thinking about the past, just like I do.

But if the past doesn’t exist outside of your thinking, what’s to heal? That’s kind of like saying the Easter Bunny needs to be healed. It’s like waking up from a nightmare that your house is on fire and still moving the family outside.

The past is an illusion, just like nightmares and the Easter Bunny. Illusions don’t need to be healed; they only need to be seen as illusions.

No matter what happened in your past, I’d bet you experience moments when it bothers you and moments when it doesn’t.

No matter how horrible the past was it hasn’t haunted every single second of your life since, has it? Haven’t you still had fleeting moments of happiness? Haven’t you been distracted enough that the past was a non-issue?

How do you explain those moments? I’ll tell you how I explain them: those were moments when you weren’t entertaining thoughts about the past, so the past was not a reality for you.

Your thinking is the sole vehicle for keeping the past alive today. It’s your only time machine. So at best, your thinking about the past might be healed.

How do you heal your thinking about the past? In my experience, you can’t control your thinking. You can’t consistently force yourself to think particular thoughts any more than you can stop some thoughts from showing up.

But you can understand that thought is fleeting. You can understand that the past is only an issue when you’re mentally recreating it and you can allow those recreations to float away when they do show up.

They float away easily when you don’t anchor them in place with your focus and judgment of them.

They will appear from time to time. That’s true for every human on the planet. Rather than stressing over their presence, see them as the illusion they are.

When you wake up, the nightmare is over. The same is true of the past.

Enlightenment Lessons #4

May 15, 2013

Here’s the fourth video in the Enlightenment Lessons series. If you missed the first two videos, you can find them here.

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On figuring it out

May 9, 2013

What percentage of your day do you suppose you’re in your head, trying to figure something out? Maybe you’re thinking about what’s for dinner or using concepts and memory to solve a problem at work. Maybe you’re trying to arrive at the best way to discipline your kids, ask your boss if you can leave [...]

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Enlightenment Lesson #3

May 7, 2013

Here’s the third video in the Enlightenment Lessons series. If you missed the first two videos, you can find them here.

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Bouncing Back

May 2, 2013

Humans are seriously resilient. We talk a lot about children being resilient. (Especially, it seems, after we feel like we’ve done something to hurt them.) But actually, all humans have the capacity for incredible resiliency. Given that our true nature is wellbeing—and that the only thing that can ever hide that wellbeing is thought—we’re always [...]

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Showing Up Dumb

April 25, 2013

It’s endlessly fascinating to me to notice the filter of thought that floats over the screen of my awareness. So much of that thick thought filter is a) Basically the same as yesterday b) Based on something that happened in the past, or c) Stemming from beliefs I formed long ago that most likely aren’t [...]

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Playing the Game: A short story about Willow and Buddha

April 17, 2013

My girl Willow has the most active imagination of anyone I’ve ever met. She’s three, by the way. She makes up scenarios with details that would blow your mind. I have no clue where she gets this stuff. She’s not only great at crafting stories, she also has the incredible ability to set aside reality [...]

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From nothing, something. (One of my huge a-ha moments).

April 11, 2013

Who are you, really? I think it’s a pretty safe bet that if you find yourself reading these words right now, you see yourself as something much bigger than a collection of blood and guts and skin and hair. You’re obviously not your body. It’s probably just as likely that you don’t view yourself as [...]

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Why outside-in seems so compelling (and why it’s actually only superstition)

April 4, 2013

I had a fascinating experience this morning. I felt really good. I was totally tapped into a nice, healthy dose of inner peace. I felt a profound sense of connection—people and nature looked radiant in a way they rarely do. My always delicious coffee was off-the-charts delicious today. The Illusion Almost immediately, and even though [...]

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