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How Lasting Change Really Works

May 11, 2017

It kills me to hear people doubting whether change is possible. They say things like “I’ve tried everything”, “I’m too deep in (to my habit or anxiety)”, “I don’t know if it will ever happen for me”. Change is not only possible–it is part of the human design. We are designed for constant, natural change. […]

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What the Operation Game Can Show You About Living Habit-Free

May 4, 2017

Remember the game Operation? You have to get that little plastic body part out of that very confined space without touching the walls. If you touch the walls…BZZZ. You get a quite jarring buzz and a red light. See why this game is an excellent metaphor for what’s going on within you when you feel stuck […]

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Thoughts Change. You Don’t.

April 27, 2017

It’s noon and so far today two people have said that they feel much calmer after our brief chat and one person asked if I was “some kind of miracle worker”.  I’m definitely not a miracle worker. The conversations I have with people often lead to what feel like miracles—brand new ways of viewing old […]

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At ease or dis-ease? Here’s the one thing that’s always happening when life feels tough.

April 20, 2017

Life moves through you. It powers you.    Imagine a kaleidoscope sitting in a dark corner of a shelf. With no light moving through, it’s just a pile of plastic. Then someone picks it up, puts it to their eyes, and turns toward the window. Stuff! Shapes and colors are brought to life by the […]

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When You Don’t Fear Your Feelings, Everything Falls into Place

April 13, 2017

What if you absolutely knew like you knew your name that feelings don’t require fixes or solutions? What if you knew with absolute certainty that all feeling passes naturally and effortlessly like weather passes through the sky? How do you suppose your day to day experience would be different? There would be zero attempts at changing how […]

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Horizontal versus Vertical: Which Kind of Change are You Inviting?

April 6, 2017

It can look like people don’t change. Or at the very least, like they don’t change easily.  That’s not true though. We are constantly changing, naturally and effortlessly.  We are wired for change. Our understanding of life is constantly evolving—just look at how radically and naturally your world view and understanding has changed from the […]

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A Paradigm Shift over 100 Years in the Making (and you have a front row seat)

March 30, 2017

We are standing at the cusp of a new understanding of the human experience.  The field of psychology has always lacked a paradigm of unifying principles. “Hard” sciences like physics and chemistry have laws. There are basic principles—like the laws of motion in physics—that underlie and unify every discovery within those fields. Everything in physics […]

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What a Safety Net and a Water Slide Have to Do With Being Human

March 23, 2017

What in the world do a safety net and a water slide have to do being human? I’ll give you a hint: it’s really good news. It’s about being okay in anything we feel. It’s about innate, never-wavering safety and temporary thrills. Please watch to see more.

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Why Change Didn’t Stick

March 16, 2017

People I’m working with for the first time often wonder why they didn’t experience deep, lasting change in the past despite the fact that they did ‘all the right things’.  They talked to the right people about their problems. They paid the money and put in the time and effort. In the case of anxiety, […]

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The Creative Challenge of Whispering Someone Awake

March 9, 2017

The type of learning that leads to life-changing, foundation-shifting change isn’t intellectual. You don’t need to be “smart” in any traditional sense. You don’t need good conceptual comprehension, a good memory, or to be able to retain or recall information. Those things may have mattered in history or chemistry class, but they don’t matter at all […]

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