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There’s an Excellent Chance You’re Completely Wrong about Why You Do the Things You Do

July 6, 2017

Every profession has rockstars. You know, those people in your field who are as kind and down-to-earth as they come, but in whose presence you feel like a tongue-tied loser. As a graduate student, one of my professional rockstars was Daniel (Danny, to those who actually knew him) Kahneman. My field of study was social cognition–how information about […]

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Change You Didn’t Know You Wanted

June 29, 2017

I recently wrote the foreword to Jill Whalen’s new book, Victim of Thought: Seeing Through the Illusion of Anxiety.   Victim of Thought tells Jill’s story of finding freedom from something she didn’t know was a problem. Which is kind of interesting, isn’t it? Finding peace and freedom that you didn’t know you didn’t have? […]

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Victim of Thought: Seeing Through the Illusion of Anxiety by Jill Whalen (the Foreword)

June 28, 2017

Below is the Foreword I wrote for a book called  Victim of Thought: Seeing Through the Illusion of Anxiety by Jill Whalen.  *** What if—regardless of how anxious you feel—you are 100% healthy and well? The first time I heard that question, I thought the person asking it was insane. “YOU certainly don’t have complete mental […]

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A New Definition of Freedom (and How it’s Much Better than “This too Shall Pass”)

June 22, 2017

No experience is off limits. Nothing you do will make you immune to feeling things you’d rather not feel. But what if there’s an even better definition of freedom? Seeing how thought and feeling work allows you to still go through the full range of human experience…but this time, with freedom.

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Experience is Always Changing. But that’s Not the Point.

June 15, 2017

I talk a lot about how our experience is always changing.  It is. Thoughts and feelings are fluid, impermanent, not “yours”.  They are like weather, coming and going on their own. A revolving door of human experience. Why exert effort to change it? It moves out naturally in its own time. Why take it personally? […]

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June 12, 2017
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Facebook Live on The Freedom Series

May 31, 2017

If you missed The Freedom Series referred to in this video, catch it here.

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Facebook Live on Everything Change

May 31, 2017

A conversation about All Things Change

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How Lasting Change Really Works

May 11, 2017

It kills me to hear people doubting whether change is possible. They say things like “I’ve tried everything”, “I’m too deep in (to my habit or anxiety)”, “I don’t know if it will ever happen for me”. Change is not only possible–it is part of the human design. We are designed for constant, natural change. […]

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What the Operation Game Can Show You About Living Habit-Free

May 4, 2017

Remember the game Operation? You have to get that little plastic body part out of that very confined space without touching the walls. If you touch the walls…BZZZ. You get a quite jarring buzz and a red light. See why this game is an excellent metaphor for what’s going on within you when you feel stuck […]

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