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Love Comes More Naturally than its Opposite

August 17, 2017

“No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion.  People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” –Nelson Mandela     I […]

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When Seeing Life as Black-or-White is Incredibly Insightful

August 10, 2017

Life isn’t really black-or-white…but seeing it that way has been one of the most helpful things I’ve ever done. Here’s the either/or I’d like you to consider: We’re either in life, in the moment, immersed and present…that’s one end of the spectrum. Or we’re in our heads, in our personal thought systems and our subjective […]

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How Your Brain is like the Play-Doh Fun Factory (and how this Can Seriously Improve Your Quality of Life)

August 3, 2017

Your brain is an appliance. A physical apparatus.  It’s a little like the Play-Doh Fun Factory (which is modeled after a pasta maker in case you aren’t familiar). You select an extruder plate (an extruder plate is one of those things that looks like a stencil with shapes cut out) to place over the opening. […]

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Good Ideas Are Shallow and Short-Lived Without a Framework

July 27, 2017

The world is full of good ideas and nice people who are happy to share them. Bumper sticker phrases. Instagram memes. Pop song refrains. There is only now. Let it go. You are perfect. Spend time in silence. It’s all in your head. Forgive and forget. Serve others. These good ideas might point out something […]

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I Know I’m Feeling my Thinking, but…

July 20, 2017

The first time I heard that I was “living in the feeling of my thinking”, I thought: “No kidding”.  As my kids say (usually with a frustrated eye-roll), “I already know that.” The second time I heard it, I thought: “Seriously, this again?” The third time, it felt like all thought stopped. My mind got […]

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The Single Source of All Addiction

July 13, 2017

Beneath the perceived complexity of addiction—beneath layers of chemical dependency, psychological and emotional instability, complicated relationships, fear and trauma—lie some incredibly simple truths.  These simple, universal truths apply to every human on earth, no exceptions. They are that universal. These truths apply to you regardless of the nature of your habit and regardless of how […]

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There’s an Excellent Chance You’re Completely Wrong about Why You Do the Things You Do

July 6, 2017

Every profession has rockstars. You know, those people in your field who are as kind and down-to-earth as they come, but in whose presence you feel like a tongue-tied loser. As a graduate student, one of my professional rockstars was Daniel (Danny, to those who actually knew him) Kahneman. My field of study was social cognition–how information about […]

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Change You Didn’t Know You Wanted

June 29, 2017

I recently wrote the foreword to Jill Whalen’s new book, Victim of Thought: Seeing Through the Illusion of Anxiety.   Victim of Thought tells Jill’s story of finding freedom from something she didn’t know was a problem. Which is kind of interesting, isn’t it? Finding peace and freedom that you didn’t know you didn’t have? […]

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Victim of Thought: Seeing Through the Illusion of Anxiety by Jill Whalen (the Foreword)

June 28, 2017

Below is the Foreword I wrote for a book called  Victim of Thought: Seeing Through the Illusion of Anxiety by Jill Whalen.  *** What if—regardless of how anxious you feel—you are 100% healthy and well? The first time I heard that question, I thought the person asking it was insane. “YOU certainly don’t have complete mental […]

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A New Definition of Freedom (and How it’s Much Better than “This too Shall Pass”)

June 22, 2017

No experience is off limits. Nothing you do will make you immune to feeling things you’d rather not feel. But what if there’s an even better definition of freedom? Seeing how thought and feeling work allows you to still go through the full range of human experience…but this time, with freedom.

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