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Thoughts Change. You Don’t.

April 27, 2017

It’s noon and so far today two people have said that they feel much calmer after our brief chat and one person asked if I was “some kind of miracle worker”.  I’m definitely not a miracle worker. The conversations I have with people often lead to what feel like miracles—brand new ways of viewing old […]

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At ease or dis-ease? Here’s the one thing that’s always happening when life feels tough.

April 20, 2017

Life moves through you. It powers you.    Imagine a kaleidoscope sitting in a dark corner of a shelf. With no light moving through, it’s just a pile of plastic. Then someone picks it up, puts it to their eyes, and turns toward the window. Stuff! Shapes and colors are brought to life by the […]

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When You Don’t Fear Your Feelings, Everything Falls into Place

April 13, 2017

What if you absolutely knew like you knew your name that feelings don’t require fixes or solutions? What if you knew with absolute certainty that all feeling passes naturally and effortlessly like weather passes through the sky? How do you suppose your day to day experience would be different? There would be zero attempts at changing how […]

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Horizontal versus Vertical: Which Kind of Change are You Inviting?

April 6, 2017

It can look like people don’t change. Or at the very least, like they don’t change easily.  That’s not true though. We are constantly changing, naturally and effortlessly.  We are wired for change. Our understanding of life is constantly evolving—just look at how radically and naturally your world view and understanding has changed from the […]

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A Paradigm Shift over 100 Years in the Making (and you have a front row seat)

March 30, 2017

We are standing at the cusp of a new understanding of the human experience.  The field of psychology has always lacked a paradigm of unifying principles. “Hard” sciences like physics and chemistry have laws. There are basic principles—like the laws of motion in physics—that underlie and unify every discovery within those fields. Everything in physics […]

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What a Safety Net and a Water Slide Have to Do With Being Human

March 23, 2017

What in the world do a safety net and a water slide have to do being human? I’ll give you a hint: it’s really good news. It’s about being okay in anything we feel. It’s about innate, never-wavering safety and temporary thrills. Please watch to see more.

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Why Change Didn’t Stick

March 16, 2017

People I’m working with for the first time often wonder why they didn’t experience deep, lasting change in the past despite the fact that they did ‘all the right things’.  They talked to the right people about their problems. They paid the money and put in the time and effort. In the case of anxiety, […]

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The Creative Challenge of Whispering Someone Awake

March 9, 2017

The type of learning that leads to life-changing, foundation-shifting change isn’t intellectual. You don’t need to be “smart” in any traditional sense. You don’t need good conceptual comprehension, a good memory, or to be able to retain or recall information. Those things may have mattered in history or chemistry class, but they don’t matter at all […]

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You Can Feel Things without Being Things

March 2, 2017

You can feel things, without being things. You can feel sad, angry, lonely, disordered or unwell without being sad, angry, lonely, disordered or unwell.  The truth is, you couldn’t be those things if you tried. What you are doesn’t change. What you are is the same one energy that is all things. The all-that-is-ness within […]

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Fake News

February 23, 2017

There’s a lot of talk about fake news these days.  A good portion of what we hear is untrustworthy. Untested. Not just biased—flat out untrue. But what about the fake news in our own heads? So much of what we hear from our own thinking is also untrustworthy, untested, biased and untrue. My friend Craig […]

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