From the category archives:

Acceptance

How to believe in your positive qualities

July 7, 2011

In the newsletter a few weeks back I told you was reading a book called The Shadow Effect. “Shadow work” is relatively common in the self-help world…it’s about delving into and coming to fully embrace your shadow parts. Your shadow parts are similar to what you might think of as flaws or faults but that’s [...]

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Truth or “La, la, la”?

June 30, 2011

We were at dinner with friends the other night—our friends (another couple) and their teenage daughter. Our friends had just returned from a vacation where they left both teenage daughters at home. I asked the one that was having dinner with us, “So did you and your sister throw some wild parties while your parents [...]

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All anxiety is just one thing

June 26, 2011

I’m beginning to think all anxiety in life comes from wanting to control things.  Me and anxiety are pretty tight. I’ve been on all sides: coaching hundreds of people through it, coaching myself through it, and before all that, being home-bound and debilitated from it. And my decades of “research” are pointing to one single [...]

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Peeling back the layers

May 12, 2011

We don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are. We see it through layers of stuff. Stuff like beliefs, fears, memories, opinions, ideas about what we think will make us happy. Those layers pile on top of each other and bury our core self. You know, the core you that [...]

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Moving forward by walking away

May 6, 2011

At one point in my life I moved a lot. Without fail, a couple weeks before my moving date I’d meet a great guy who was firmly planted in the city I was moving away from. Or I’d meet some fun new friends, or discover a hidden gem of a restaurant I never knew about [...]

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Why you don’t love yourself more. And how to.

May 1, 2011

Improving self-love and decreasing the desire for approval are part of my life every single day. I’m either helping other people through it, or I’m working on my own issues with it. Constantly. We love ourselves just fine at first. Then something happens. I remember this vividly from my own childhood. I’d have an idea [...]

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The paradox of self-help

April 22, 2011

I’m obsessed with paradox lately. You know paradox—a statement that seems contradictory but really isn’t. Two (or more) things that appear to be mutually exclusive but both are actually true. My favorite paradox is this: You are whole + perfect + enough as you are right now and you can be better. If you have [...]

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Life Isn’t Fair

April 7, 2011

Read this. It’s really good. Here’s the gist: A woman was feeling disillusioned, frustrated, tired.  (We’ve all been there, right? I was there most of yesterday.) She was railing against her predominating thought: “Life isn’t fair”. Her very smart coach gently pointed out that life isn’t fair. Because it’s not. Of course. Believing life should [...]

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How to Skip to the Fun part of Enlightenment

March 27, 2011

The Universe sent me a note the other day. Here’s what it said: For millenniums, Amy, the path to enlightenment has been made up of many steps. Most commonly, it begins with festering misunderstandings that lead to pain, the pain then leads to growth, growth leads to clarity, clarity leads to fun, fun leads to [...]

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It’s On

March 24, 2011

This is it. There’s nothing to wait for. You’re not getting ready for anything. You’re not in preparation. This is it. There is no “when…” or “if…” Dot, dot, dot isn’t real. Life is NOW, it’s not waiting for dot, dot, dot. If you’re waiting for anything before you start living full out or being [...]

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