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Choice & Decision

Non-Attachment? Or simply not Choosing?

March 8, 2012

I have a client who used to live his life in the future. He was in his head, planning, predicting, trying to control things before they occurred. It wasn’t all that pleasant for him, as you can imagine. So, he started working on his stuff and made some shifts. Except that he shifted a little [...]

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How big is your universe?

February 16, 2012

For sake of argument, let’s say you want a convertible. What you really want is to get more sun and somewhere along the way you decided a great way to get more sun would be to drive a convertible. As soon as you made that link, your mind starting tuning into all things convertible and [...]

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Choose again

September 1, 2011

*This post is Part II in a two part installment on making choices. Here’s part I.*  Most decisions in life are reversible. If you don’t like the choice you made, choose again. If you pick the wrong college or the wrong major or the wrong career, so what? Choose again. If you choose a paint color [...]

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There is no perfect choice

August 25, 2011

*This post is Part I in a two part installment on making choices* Ever noticed how easy it is to get worked up when you’re choosing between options? Last week a client was struggling with the choice between being induced or letting her baby come on its own, both of which (given her health history) [...]

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You First.

May 19, 2011

No one wants to go first. We want someone else to go first to make it easier on us. But one of my coaches always reminds me: “You first”. You want them to think you’re awesome and then you’ll feel awesome. If they think you’re awesome first, it’ll be much easier for you to agree. [...]

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Moving forward by walking away

May 6, 2011

At one point in my life I moved a lot. Without fail, a couple weeks before my moving date I’d meet a great guy who was firmly planted in the city I was moving away from. Or I’d meet some fun new friends, or discover a hidden gem of a restaurant I never knew about [...]

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What have your Obstacles done for you, Lately? (Or, How Panic Disorder helped me relax)

February 19, 2011

I became freakishly peaceful the summer of 2000.  I had always been into working on my stuff and becoming more Enlightened, but that summer after my first year of grad school was entirely different. I was meditating regularly—the silent, lotus-position, old-school way. I took mindful showers and mindful walks, and I mindfully cleaned the toilet. [...]

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What Aaron Rodgers was thinking. And more important, what he wasn’t thinking.

February 9, 2011

A few years ago, Brett Favre stepped down as the Green Bay Packers starting quarterback. To say that Green Bay loved Brett Favre is kind of like saying Charlie Sheen loves parties. Walk into any junior high school in Wisconsin and you’ll find classrooms full of 13 year old boys named Brett after Favre brought [...]

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Can We Really Have It All? Maybe. Here’s How.

January 3, 2011

As little girls, we’re told we Can-Have-It-All. Martha Beck says: We can have it all…except sleep. Courtney Martin says: They tell us we can do anything, but what we hear is that we must do everything. So, can we have it all? I’m exploring this in my own life. The Problem Here’s my current, typical [...]

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What Change Looks Like

September 12, 2010

When people first hire a coach–or take any big step to change their life–things start happening with surprising speed. Here’s a scenario I see all the time: Someone contacts me about coaching. We chat; they decide to go ahead with it. Between their decision to work with me and our first session together, things start [...]

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