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Dealing with Fear

Keep your Dreams Clean

January 26, 2012

“Your goals minus your doubts equal your reality” – Ralph Marston Exactly. In graduate school I studied the way information is mentally represented. How concepts are stored and processed and retrieved. I’m actually going to put that knowledge to use here because the way you mentally represent your dreams and your doubts is important. It [...]

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How to Shred the File called “All the things that might go wrong”

January 19, 2012

“Children are happy because they don’t have a file in their mind called ‘All the things that could go wrong’—Marianne Williamson Do you remember what life was like before you had a file called “All the things that could go wrong”? Do you remember what it was like to wake up with not a care [...]

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Everything you ever Needed

January 12, 2012

One of my favorite topics is Need. I love it when people tell me they need something they don’t have. Or when they argue that their needs haven’t been met. How could either of those possibly be true? If you truly needed something that you weren’t getting–and you’re still alive–then you didn’t really need it. [...]

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Worst Case, Best Case, Doing Nothing and Having a Plan

November 17, 2011

I was recently listening to a smart guy talking about how we get paralyzed by fear and uncertainty. He was teaching how to use fear and uncertainty to clarify what we want and move forward. For example, let’s say your inner voice is nudging you toward leaving your current partner but you’re really unsure. You [...]

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Success is sooo much more likely than failure

September 15, 2011

You might not believe me at first but I swear it’s the truth…. We’re infinitely more likely to succeed in life than to fail.  When you really think about it, much more goes right than wrong. Even on your worst day ever. This doesn’t feel true because—in a totally protective and adaptive way—we’re inclined to [...]

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Mo’ money…

September 8, 2011

The purpose of money is to buy stuff.   It has no other purpose. I know, the “stuff” money buys sometimes sounds loftier and more meaningful than cars and electronics. Sometimes you buy experiences, which you interpret as “wisdom” or “adventure”. Or education, which you call “freedom” or “opportunity”.  It’s easy to spin the story so [...]

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Look away….is your problem still there?

May 26, 2011

My man Michael Neill says: Think of a problem. Now ask yourself, would this problem still exist if I stopped thinking about it?  (I have such a huge mind crush on this guy it’s not even funny.) Go ahead, try it. Real problems remain, even when you stop thinking about them. In fact, real problems [...]

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Where’s your inner honey badger?

May 22, 2011

Yeah, I know this video has been viewed by like 15 trillion people. And I got to it late, so chances are excellent that you’ve already seen it. But the honey badger is one of my current idols and he can be one for you, too. “The honey badger is the most fearless animal in [...]

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Fight for your Right to Party. Not to Worry.

March 30, 2011

I get this question all the time when I’m helping people with chronic, habitual fear and worry. “But isn’t worry helpful, to some extent?” they ask, fighting for their right to worry. “Isn’t it protective?” From what do you think you need protection? The fear that your mind made up to begin with? Yes, that’s [...]

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How to Stop Being Afraid–Even when the Whole World Thinks you Should Be

March 21, 2011

This is a piece written by Anna Kunnecke. Anna lives in Tokyo. I begged Anna to let me post this here. Well, she’s very kind and said yes right away so I didn’t have to really beg. But I would have. If you’ve coached with me, or if you read this blog, you know what [...]

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