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Self-worth & Self-love

Your Worth (On the Night You Were Born)

March 22, 2012

My daughter got a book from her aunt. It wasn’t even an intentional gift; it was thrown in with a bag of art supplies and hand-me-downs, all nonchalant-like.  It’s called On the Night You Were Born. I read it to her the other day. It begins: On the night you were born, The moon smiled [...]

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Self-Esteem isn’t all it’s Cracked up to Be

December 1, 2011

Holding yourself in high esteem seems really important, doesn’t it? For good reason, I admit. It’s nice to think positive thoughts about yourself and that’s exactly what self-esteem is: making favorable evaluative judgments about good ole’ you. Self-esteem is about the thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself. And as you know, thoughts and beliefs [...]

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Gratitude for Being Human

November 22, 2011

Here’s what I’m grateful for right now: being human. The whole of it. Everything that being human entails. I used to think being human kind of sucked most of the time. With our habitual patterns that run on auto-pilot and our irrationally fearful thoughts and our unpredictable emotions. Human-ness felt like a big hassle. I [...]

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Wouldn’t THIS be wild?

July 28, 2011

What if all humans were equal?  Not just created equal…what if we couldn’t help but remain equals our entire lives no matter what happened to us or what choices we made?   What if all the evidence we use to separate ourselves from others; all those facts and all that proof we use to decide that [...]

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How to believe in your positive qualities

July 7, 2011

In the newsletter a few weeks back I told you was reading a book called The Shadow Effect. “Shadow work” is relatively common in the self-help world…it’s about delving into and coming to fully embrace your shadow parts. Your shadow parts are similar to what you might think of as flaws or faults but that’s [...]

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Why you don’t love yourself more. And how to.

May 1, 2011

Improving self-love and decreasing the desire for approval are part of my life every single day. I’m either helping other people through it, or I’m working on my own issues with it. Constantly. We love ourselves just fine at first. Then something happens. I remember this vividly from my own childhood. I’d have an idea [...]

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Is there one general piece of advice?

April 28, 2011

In the movie How do you know? Reese Witherspoon asks her therapist: “Is there one general piece of advice that can help almost anyone in almost any situation?” Good question. What’s your answer? You may not be a psychologist or a life coach and you may not help people find their way in any formal [...]

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Does Anyone NOT Think They Should Be Doing Better?

April 13, 2011

Okay, time for an unofficial survey: Does anyone out there not think they should be doing better than they are? Yeah, I know you’re all Enlightened and stuff and you don’t use the word Should. Me neither. And you don’t compare yourself to others. And you know that where you are is exactly where you’re [...]

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How to be Adorable

February 25, 2011

**This post is an updated version of an article previously published in my weekly newsletter. So if it sounds vaguely familiar, now you know. ** If you want to be adored—and let’s face it, who doesn’t?—be adorable. I used to wonder what people meant by the phrase, “You have to love yourself before anyone else [...]

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The Woman Who Makes Me Want a Shower

November 17, 2010

Think about the people who trigger you most: your mom, the nosy neighbor, that lady in the cubicle next to you who shops online and plays Farmville all day as if no one’s on to her. Think about the feeling you get amidst these triggery people—repulsion is the most common. A physical reaction that makes [...]

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