The problem with problem solving

March 21, 2013

The problem with problem solving is that most of our problems are figments of our imagination. That doesn’t mean the conditions we label “problem” aren’t real, it just means that the label… “problem”… is only your personal take on those conditions.   Here’s an example. If your friend is taking advantage of you, that may [...]

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Want to get lucky? Here’s how.

March 14, 2013

Things happen to us that we can’t control. All the time. But we do have some control over what we bring to the table: how we prepare, our qualities, our attitude. And we do have some control over how we respond to those chance things that happen to us. It’s like the old joke about [...]

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Life with no memory

March 7, 2013

I heard a story about a guy who had no long-term memory and very little short-term memory. He kept a journal. By the time he wrote in his journal each night, he had pretty much forgotten everything that had happened that day. He was living in a perpetual state of present moment awareness. As it [...]

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The Thing about Mean People

February 28, 2013

I don’t believe there are mean people.  There are wounded people who appear mean. And there are insecure people who appear mean. And yet, it’s not like I remember this all the time or apply to everyone I meet. It’s easy to have compassion for some people and harder to have compassion for others. As [...]

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How much pleasure will you allow?

February 21, 2013

Sometimes a quote just speaks to you.  This is one of those for me.  “When you die, God and the Angels will hold you accountable for all the pleasures you were allowed in life that you denied yourself.”  –Roger Housden I’ve read this over and over. I sound like Meg Ryan in that famous diner [...]

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Here’s how to change your brain

February 14, 2013

As you’ve no doubt noticed, I talk a lot about thought. We are not our thoughts. Our thoughts are not us. Thought is habitual and über subjective. How to detach from thought. The value in observing thought without judgment. You get the picture. Aside from the amazing freedom you find when you stop taking all [...]

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A story about presence: Traveling with my kids

February 7, 2013

Traveling with children is totally enlightening. I live largely in my thinking. This is my experience: Thinking… “We have three, maybe four hours between wake up time and time for Miller’s first nap.  Two to three hours once you factor in breakfast and baths. What should we do? We should go to the beach. Will [...]

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Does a happy life really = a better life?

January 31, 2013

There must be a rumor going around. Virtually all of my clients tell me about it at some point. The rumor sounds something like this: We should nearly-always be happy. That it’s somehow unenlightened to have bad days. That negative emotion should be quite rare and reserved for only those times when something truly horrible [...]

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What’s best vs. what you think is best

January 24, 2013

The two S’s: Suffering and Stuck. When you feel either, there is an excellent chance that are holding on to something you think is best for you, but it’s not. That dream you say is yours (the career you grew up knowing you’d choose, the hobbies and lifestyle you think you’re supposed to have)…it’s not [...]

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36 Things I’ve Learned in 36 Years

January 17, 2013

It’s my 36th birthday.             Two years ago today I wrote a post called 34 Things I’ve Learned in 34 Years. This is the revised version. Two entries added. Some revised, since I see the world just a tad bit differently with two more years under my belt. These are just my personal truths as seen [...]

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