A new form of suffering-repellent

October 13, 2011

I’ve found a practice that is suffering-repellent. Be like water. That’s how Wayne Dyer puts it. DO be fluid and easy and fill in the cracks; DON’T be firm and rigid and unyielding. Yield. Don’t concretize and solidify your thoughts. That’s how Pema Chodron puts it.  Soften around your thoughts, don’t harden around them. Be [...]

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What was your most useful failure?

October 6, 2011

My friend posed this question on Facebook. I love it. What was your most useful failure? I’m sure I’ve had a lot of life-saving failures. But two come immediately to mind: 1) Abhorring my first career out of graduate school. I was a trial consultant helping corporate defense attorneys craft lies to win their cases [...]

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I Choose to live in Easy World

September 29, 2011

I read a book by Julia Rogers Hamrick called Choosing Easy World: A guide to opting out of struggle and strife and living in the amazing realm where everything is easy.  Wait a minute…we can just opt out of struggle and strife? There’s an amazing realm where everything is easy? In a sort of epiphany, [...]

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Are you harshing your own buzz?

September 22, 2011

All the coolest research says making small progress on the way to a big goal makes us happier than actually reaching the goal. When we reach those stepping stone mini-goals, our brain rewards us with a quick hit of dopamine. In case you’re not up on your neurotransmitters, dopamine is the bringer of pleasure and [...]

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Success is sooo much more likely than failure

September 15, 2011

You might not believe me at first but I swear it’s the truth…. We’re infinitely more likely to succeed in life than to fail.  When you really think about it, much more goes right than wrong. Even on your worst day ever. This doesn’t feel true because—in a totally protective and adaptive way—we’re inclined to [...]

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Changing your story: An unbelievable personal tale

September 11, 2011

Technologically speaking, it’s been a hell of month. I wouldn’t believe it if I wasn’t (barely) living through it. It all started August 9th when hubby, Willow and I were driving from Detroit to Montreal. We purposely chose to do the 10 hour drive during a work day so that I could work most of [...]

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Mo’ money…

September 8, 2011

The purpose of money is to buy stuff.   It has no other purpose. I know, the “stuff” money buys sometimes sounds loftier and more meaningful than cars and electronics. Sometimes you buy experiences, which you interpret as “wisdom” or “adventure”. Or education, which you call “freedom” or “opportunity”.  It’s easy to spin the story so [...]

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Choose again

September 1, 2011

*This post is Part II in a two part installment on making choices. Here’s part I.*  Most decisions in life are reversible. If you don’t like the choice you made, choose again. If you pick the wrong college or the wrong major or the wrong career, so what? Choose again. If you choose a paint color [...]

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Abundance breeds abundance

August 28, 2011

I ran across this short vlog on Huffington Post today. I love talking about the Cure for Envy.  She says it well.

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There is no perfect choice

August 25, 2011

*This post is Part I in a two part installment on making choices* Ever noticed how easy it is to get worked up when you’re choosing between options? Last week a client was struggling with the choice between being induced or letting her baby come on its own, both of which (given her health history) [...]

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