Gina Popejoy - Change Coach Profile
Location: Bay Area, CA USA
Before I came to this understanding, I struggled with self-criticism and self-judgment for as long as I can remember. It was baffling how cruel I was to myself, I wouldn’t speak to another living being in the manner I routinely spoke to myself.
As we do, I tried to change my internal world with external achievements, relationships, or possessions in hopes of finding peace. When that didn’t work I numbed the pain and anxiety with substances, primarily food…generating more criticism, tension, and confusion.
What I have come to see is the criticism and judgment was my brain’s way of trying to find safety. I belittled and dismissed myself before anyone else could. Our brains are wired for survival and sometimes go too far in their drive for certainty. It was a habit developed when I was a young girl growing up in a tension-filled home. I thought I was insecure and didn’t like myself because of my insecure and self-critical thinking. What a relief to find out WE ARE NOT OUR THOUGHTS. No matter how long we have unintentionally practiced a habit, it still doesn’t make you the habit. I hope you can feel a little more space just hearing these words.
When we understand how our brains work, we can develop a healthy, light-hearted, spacious relationship with it. In this understanding, we can quit fighting our thoughts or trying to change them, opening the door to our own heart. This is where I truly found self-compassion, peace, and the acceptance I was longing for.
Our pain and tension is there to tell us we are not telling ourselves the truth, not that there is anything wrong with us.
I meet my clients right where they are. There is no agenda other than discovering their own heart so that they can live a freer, more spacious life. If you would like to have a free half-hour chat with me, please schedule a session below.