Ask Amy: It’s so hard to set boundaries and say no to people. Is it wrong to avoid them instead?

Renee almost always does what people ask of her. She feels rude, selfish, and mean if she doesn’t.

While this is great for the people asking favors, it’s not so good for Renee.

The best she’s seen to do is avoid these favor-askers, but that doesn’t feel ideal either. What other options does she have?

Listen in to why setting boundaries and saying no is NOT the best first step for Renee.

Hear what is.

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