I have a friend — let’s call her Sarah — who has been having the same argument with her husband for 20 years.
She and her husband talk about it regularly. She and I talk about it regularly. The three of us have even talked about it. They really want this argument to stop.
But it’s been 20 years and it’s not stopping. They’ve put a lot into trying to figure it out and find a solution. The thing is, they have a pretty great relationship aside from this trap they fall into.