I bet you’ve tried change the hard way. Pretty much everyone has. The hard way is where you fall into one or more of these traps:You consider your habit or unwanted behavior a huge problem; it looks like a personality flaw, a weakness, or maybe even a disease. It hasn’t occurred to you that your unwanted
You don’t actually “have” a habit. There’s no stability there, so there’s nothing to have.There may be consistency. That’s the definition of a habit—something that habitually, consistently arises.But there is no stability. Your habit is a thought that arises within you. It is not yours. You don’t own it or have it and it doesn’t own
There is nothing in the world that can’t be worked out by taking things one…moment…at…a…time. There are no unanswerable questions and no unsolvable problems. There is no angst or anxiety. All is ridiculously well when you simply Stay Here and do what occurs to you in this very moment.It doesn’t have to be right or good
The future is completely open, and we are writing it moment to moment.” ~Pema ChodronMy family recently drove from Michigan to North Carolina—twenty hours roundtrip. To entertain themselves, my five-year-old daughter Willow taught my three-year-old son Miller to play rock-paper-scissors in the backseat.Miller learned the hand signals and got the overall concept pretty quickly, but
Do me a favor. Open both of your hands, palms up. You have an empty left palm facing up, and an empty right palm facing up.Imagine that your left hand represents what you feel and experience. In that hand is feelings of happy, scared, excited or nervous. In that hand is experiences of hunger, sleepiness, pain
This article was originally published in July 2016.There’s an inner churning that happens. Or a circling, perhaps. Like a dog circling the rug, looking for a soft place to rest.That circling is what happens when a mind is disturbed. I don’t mean disturbed in any sort of stable or unhealthy way. Disturbed is a temporary experience, not a
While I was at the Three Principles Global Community conference last week, and really kind woman stopped me in the lobby. She told me that she loved the story below so much that she was going to include it in her holiday cards this year.Really?! Well, that’s pretty awesome. I told Willow, the star of this
My colleague Jack Pransky said something I love. It’s been the inspiration for my upcoming Being Human Workshop. This is how Jack summed up the truth of what it means to be human:“All we are is peace, love, and wisdom, and the power to create the illusion that we are not.”Isn’t that beautiful? And profound? Really,
Shirley has been a flight attendant for 40 years. When she was very young and new on the job, she was badly hurt in some turbulence. She was afraid to fly for a while after that experience.One day a passenger noticed her fear and asked her about it. She admitted to being afraid and told him
A friend was telling me about a panic attack he had. As is often the case, he didn’t share his experience in a matter-of-fact, isn’t-that-interesting, what-do-you-want-to-talk-about-next kind of way.I could feel the emotion in his words. The fear, the confusion, the struggle to make sense of his experience.I felt him trying to connect dots that don’t
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