Category: Your true nature

Your Habit has Nothing to Do with You

I talked with Clare Dimond a few weeks ago about this quote from The Little Book of Big Change: “Your habit is not “you” and it is not personal. It is simply your brain doing what it does.” We dissected this quote line by line. Your habit is not “you”. Of course it isn’t. Who

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You Will Never Feel Secure

The search for something that will make us feel complete can literally never be won. I’m not saying it’s difficult, it will run you ragged, or maybe try something else instead. I’m saying it’s impossible. The idea that something can be missing–the seeking itself–is the illusion of separation. It’s the illusion that there is a

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Compare and Despair

Minds think their survival, which is really the body’s survival, depends on them knowing all they can about you and your weaknesses so they can save you from future failure. One of their favorite tools for knowing the future is comparison. Comparison is how the mind secures its position as “safe” and “enough.” To a

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The Dream

I had a falling dream the other night. My son and I were crawling across a steel beam that was about two feet wide and 1000 feet off the ground. We were doing it together, inch by inch, very slowly and very carefully.  Our deaths were highly probable and we knew it. As we inched

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Redundant

Since you were about eighteen months old, thought has been masquerading as you. It began labeling and naming things and people, including a very special label called “me”. Anything felt to be arising around “your” particular bodymind became you and yours, me and mine. Sensations felt in the body were called “my feelings”. Thoughts in

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Unique and Universal

The worries and concerns that flash in awareness–and they truly are just a flashing reflection of images, sounds, and sensations–are unique.  Sometimes they talk about your health or the health of loved ones. Sometimes about money. Often about something being missing, you not measuring up or needing something you appear to not have.  Around this

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What You Know About Your Life is a Re-Presentation of the Past

Here’s something crazy to think about. Every single thing you know about your identity, and every single thing you know about your life, is rooted in the past. Who are you? You can only answer that question–using words and descriptions, anyway–by referring to the past. You’re a sister or brother or so-and-so’s child? How could

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Thought Doing What Thought Does

We’ve come to expect our mind to behave the way we want it to rather than pausing to understand how minds naturally operate.  It would be like bringing Jelly home for the first time and after a few hours saying, “This one’s too hyper. Her bark is too squeaky. She doesn’t work the way we

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Worry

I learned to worry at an early age. My mom worried a lot, often aloud, and I had no clue that what she was worrying about wasn’t real. You don’t as a kid. We were going to run out of money. We’d have to eat canned soup every night. We were going to lose our

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Putting on a Facade

Somewhere around the thirteenth century in Bangkok, Thailand, a massive statue of the Buddha was made of pure gold. Not long after the statue was created, Burmese soldiers invaded Thailand. In a flash of insight, the Thai people covered the Golden Buddha in stucco and glass to hide its value and keep it safe from

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