Tag: failure

The Fear of Failure

It’s common for us to play small in our lives when the fear of failing is too much to bear.In order to acquire skills, or have a sliver of a chance at getting “good” at something, we need to be allowed to mess up and make those dreaded, so-called “mistakes.” But when we have a

What was Your Most Useful Failure?

My friend posed this question on Facebook. I love it. What was your most useful failure? I’m sure I’ve had a lot of life-saving failures. But two come immediately to mind:1) Abhorring my first career out of graduate school. I was a trial consultant helping corporate defense attorneys craft lies to win their cases over

Success is so Much More Likely Than Failure

You might not believe me at first but I swear it’s the truth….We’re infinitely more likely to succeed in life than to fail. When you really think about it, much more goes right than wrong. Even on your worst day ever.This doesn’t feel true because—in a totally protective and adaptive way—we’re inclined to notice and exaggerate

A Coaching Session About Fear

I’d like to share an email exchange between me and one of my clients. I’m sharing this with her full permission and blessing. I’m sharing it because her feelings are so common, so real, so human. I hear these same thoughts all the time—in my own head and from the mouths of others.We agreed that