I am not a worrier. I just used to think I was. I have spent a good part of three decades researching how to stop overthinking and worrying. I always thought it was part of my make-up, personality and nature. With a wonderful, loving and stable childhood behind me, I concluded it was a reflection
Have you ever had unwanted thoughts that seem to come out of nowhere, appear extreme, and make no sense? Well, you are not alone. This puzzling, and what can be, distressing phenomenon happens to everyone and can rest assured, you are normal. Intrusive thoughts with anxiety can feel closely connected with fear, guilt, and stress.
Worry happens when a mind makes up stories about what might happen in the future, and we believe those stories as if they are true. We all worry at times. But in extreme cases, worry can seriously impact your life. It can disrupt your sleep, relationships, decision making, and leave you with a life that feels
I read a book by Julia Rogers Hamrick called Choosing Easy World: A guide to opting out of struggle and strife and living in the amazing realm where everything is easy. Wait a minute…we can just opt out of struggle and strife? There’s an amazing realm where everything is easy? In a sort of epiphany,
I get this question all the time when I’m helping people with chronic, habitual fear and worry. “But isn’t worry helpful, to some extent?” they ask, fighting for their right to worry. “Isn’t it protective?”From what do you think you need protection? The fear that your mind made up to begin with?Yes, that’s it exactly.
It takes courage to be happy.It’s very human to be afraid of the uncertainty of life. Afraid all the good stuff you have is going to end and you won’t be able to cope.Brene Brown talks about the panic that sets in while she’s staring lovingly at her sleeping children. From “aren’t they precious” to
Mindfulness is what we practice to cultivate presence. Presence is the state of being totally immersed in what’s right in front of us.The perk of presence that I usually focus on is that fear, worry, negative thoughts fall away. This is because those things do not exist in the Now. They are completely and totally
I went for a walk the other day, not feeling so great. I was filled with worry and self-judgment. Did some self-coaching that morning and it just wasn’t giving me the relief I was looking for.The worry was around getting pregnant again. Or more accurately, the fear of not getting pregnant again. The self-judgment came