What Are You?
Are you a collection of shifting ideas, memories, habits, and mental images? Are you the one experiencing those ideas, memories and images?
Are you the body, are you in the body, or are you something that possesses a body?
Maybe these ideas of who you are—that lead to pride and shame, desire and fear, and require so much protection and defense—are beginning to look suspiciously flat. Less like an actual self.
You have the sense that life is waking you up, and you want to heed that call.
Perhaps there have been major transitions: the end of a relationship, health challenges, or shifts in your work or family life that change how “you” show up in the world. Or perhaps nothing on the outside has changed yet, but the life that seemed like yours a few years ago simply no longer fits. The conversations, people, and activities you used to bring comfort don’t feel the same.
As uncomfortable as these changes might be, you find that you don’t want to resist them. You don’t want to turn back and cling to what’s familiar.
You feel an intuitive pull to let the intelligence of life lead, rather than doubling down on what thought says should be happening.
You want to make good use of the changes that are occurring.
I have been there. Life strips away what no longer fits, and truth is revealed in that process. It can be messy, but it’s a chance to shed outdated, inherited ideas about how life should look.
One thing I’ve seen in this process is that you cannot think your way to clarity or truth. The intellect is not the tool for this.
Moving toward truth is about relying on wiser ways of knowing: feeling, sensing, intuition, and direct perception.
The Support
This is a 6-month, high contact coaching partnership designed to help you strip away conditioned thinking and passed-down beliefs—including the belief in a limited self—so revealing what is most essential and true.
Together, we will look at exactly what life is trying to show you with courage and curiosity. We will look at:
Attention: Is it in this direct experience, open to the intelligence in what’s here now, open to intuition, energies, and deeper dimensions of life?
Or is attention in repetitive, dead thinking masquerading as intelligence and truth?
When it feels like you are a separate self, attention is constantly re-routed into self-centered thinking, leading us to miss the direct experience of life as it is.
This entire awakening, truth-seeking process is about moving beyond thinking and conditioned beliefs into direct, immediate experience.
Most of all, we will examine the sense of self. To whom is this all happening?
The process of looking into direct experience to examine who-you-are itself is incredibly illuminating the whole way through! You become familiar with the inner landscape and there is far more space and objectivity around thoughts, emotions, and conditioned patterns.
Here are some ways things typically changes as identity is seen to be an idea rather than a real, solid thing:
- Disidentification with thought. Thoughts aren’t you or yours; in fact, they are just one tiny thing going on here (but they happen to get a bulk of attention when they are about ‘me’).
- A reduction in—or perhaps complete elimination of—shame, guilt, being overly sensitive to feedback or what people think of you, protective measures, and defensiveness.
- You are present, with attention in direct experience and intuition rather than constantly being dragged into self-centered thinking.
- Guarding and defending your self-idea takes an exhausting amount of maintenance. Seeing through the self-idea frees up an incredible amount of energy.
- A greater capacity to connect deeply with others. When thought isn’t scanning the landscape for things it can get, or ways of staying safe or comfortable, attention can absorb into nature, the senses, and connection with others. In my experience, this has been a radically different, richer way of being in relationship.
The Format
The coaching program is one-on-one (or potentially two-on-one at times; see below) and completely designed around you. You will benefit from a combination of longer immersive sessions plus frequent and on-call zoom support whenever it feels most helpful.
- A 3-Day Intensive Kickoff: Held in person in Michigan (Zoom is an option if needed, but in-person is highly recommended).
- 6 Months of Support: We will have weekly calls to keep you grounded and moving forward.
- A 1-Day Closing Intensive: Held near the end of our six months (online or in person) to integrate everything you’ve seen and leave you firmly grounded in your own continuing practice.
- Open-Door Access: You can schedule extra calls whenever a challenging moment pops up, at no extra cost.
- Curated Resources: I’ll send you specific books and videos that directly speak to where you are in the truth-seeking process.
- A Bonus Guide, when appropriate: Our work on identity is inspired by Dan Kelso’s Deep Self Investigation method. If we hit a point in your journey where Dan’s specific perspective would benefit you, he will join our calls or intensives at no extra cost.
Is this for you?
Because this program requires a large commitment of time, energy, and presence from both of us, we need to make sure we are a great fit. We will get on a call to talk it through, but before we take that step, please make sure these statements resonate with you:
- You are tired of the cycle of having a breakthrough or spiritual insight, only to “forget” it a few days later. You understand that looking for the one having those insights is how that cycle ends.
- You are turned off by typical social expectations, superficial small talk, and the mindless and conditioned ways society runs.
- You intuitively know that your current challenges are happening to wake you up. Even through fear or grief, you sense the rightness of this transition.
- You’re willing to look to what life is revealing rather than what the mind is clinging to.
- You are aware of your own innocent hypocrisies, and you’re starting to clearly see the fear and self-centeredness driving the world around you.
- You sense the fundamental essence of things, but you’re not sure how to access it. (Or perhaps you do have a sense of how to access it and you want to ‘go there’ more!)
- You aren’t interested in managing behavior or focusing on the content of thought. You are eager to look past the drama of the mind and the drama of the “outside” world, to look past imagination and see what is true and real.
- You know that no one else can do this work for you—but you want a guide so the path is clearer, faster, and less painful.
- You want truth over comfort.
When we finally commit to living from truth over comfort, life begins to simplify and clarify in truly remarkable ways.
The Investment
This program isn’t a temporary band-aid or a quick fix for a passing problem. It is a radical shift in how you experience reality. It is a step toward genuine, lasting freedom.
- Paid in Full: $12,000 via check or bank transfer (covers everything listed above except your personal travel expenses for the intensives).
- Payment Plan: 4 payments of $3,188 via bank transfer.
- Note: There is a 3% increase for credit card processing.
To make sure you get as much of my energy and undivided attention as you need, I will only work with 2 people in this program at any given time. Once those two spots are filled, you can join the waiting list for when a spot opens up in a couple of months.
Next Steps
- Fill out the application
Click the link below to fill out a short application. - We’ll have a Zoom call
Once I look over your application, I’ll reach out via email to set up a time to talk. We’ll have a conversation about where you are, what’s already clear, what’s not, and what feels most important to you. You can ask any questions you have, and we’ll figure out together if this program feels right for you.
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