Category: Archives (before mid-2012)

Here’s a Visual for You

Since I’ve been writing more about my family, some of you have messaged saying you’d like to see a picture.And I know that when I’m reading personal blogs, pictures make them so much more real. Real is good.So, here you go.  Here’s a picture of my little family around the holidays this year.Now when I

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How I Sabotage my Marriage

Humans love stability. And balance.So much so that even really good changes can feel uncomfortable. Winning the lottery, getting the staring role in that television drama, publishing your book…awesome, but panic-inducing, too.Just like thermostats, we have a set point. Diverging too far from our internal average leaves us feeling vulnerable. And vulnerable is no fun

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5 Reasons to Write Things Down

I’m a major list maker. I love the clarity that comes from getting thoughts out of my head and the concreteness of seeing them on paper. I love having the mental space to switch gears without needing a nap.Clutter in any form robs your energy—too many thoughts bouncing around in your head is mental clutter.

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Do What you Want, When you Want to

I haven’t been following my own advice lately. I’ve caught myself struggling through things that don’t feel easy or fun. And passing up things I want to do, so that I can do more of what I think I should do. Sucks.This way of being doesn’t feel good. It’s frustrating to muscle through tasks that feel

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Can We Really Have It All? Maybe. Here’s How.

As little girls, we’re told we Can-Have-It-All. Martha Beck says: We can have it all…except sleep.Courtney Martin says: They tell us we can do anything, but what we hear is that we must do everything.So, can we have it all? I’m exploring this in my own life.The ProblemHere’s my current, typical morning:Wake up at 6,

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Taming the Thoughts with David Trotter

I was recently interviewed by David Trotter of Launch52.(Check out Launch52. It’s cool. His free Guide to Re-launch your Life is very personal and very concrete).We gab about my ebook Taming the Thoughts that Run Wild, how to Tame your own thoughts, how to experience complete emotional freedom in your life, and how to Create.  Yeah,

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No one is Paying Attention to You

People don’t notice your mistakes as much as you think they do. It’s a law of the universe. Okay, maybe not of the universe, but it is a law of human psychology.It’s called the Spotlight Effect in social psychology. There’s a study where college students are asked to do something super embarrasing…wear a Barry Manilow t-shirt around

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Responsibility vs. Blame

Do you know the difference between responsibility and blame?Responsibility is empowering. It’s powerful. It’s all good.When you take responsibility for your life, you put yourself in the driver’s seat.  When you take responsibility for having hurt someone, you accept what you did so that you can learn from your mistakes and move on.Responsibility = Acceptance.

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Happiness in the Everyday-ness

You know this, but if you’re anything like me you could use a reminder:It’s the little things, the every day moments like grocery shopping on Saturday mornings, tucking the kids into bed, coffee breaks on Monday afternoons, that make up a life.Don’t get me wrong; the big things are great, too.buy kamagra polo online https://www.mabvi.org/wp-content/themes/mabvi/images/new/kamagra-polo.html

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When your Parent Can’t Give You the Love You Deserve

I knew I’d write about this someday, but it wasn’t supposed to be now.Then a friend confided in me that she was scared to death that her mother—who doesn’t show her much love or approval—was right about her. And someone else turned to me when her relationship with her parents unraveled because they couldn’t accept

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