Category: Being Human

Afraid to Look

When we think our experience is all there is, we’re often afraid to look at it.  When it feels uncomfortable or dangerous and true and personal, we numb. We avoid. We look away. We distract ourselves from our experience of life in countless ways, like staying chronically busy, needing to be surrounded by people or

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Your Habit has Nothing to Do with You

I talked with Clare Dimond a few weeks ago about this quote from The Little Book of Big Change: “Your habit is not “you” and it is not personal. It is simply your brain doing what it does.” We dissected this quote line by line. Your habit is not “you”. Of course it isn’t. Who

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The Mind isn’t Real

This supposed thing we call a mind isn’t real. That may be obvious. Mind isn’t a thing. It’s just another thought-label used to lump more thought together to give it an apparent source. Like, “This is what my mind says” or “That’s just what minds do”. That sort of thing. Mind may be a helpful

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We Are Puppets

Our January guest speaker in The Little School of Big Change Graduate Community was Gary Crowley. Gary’s written several books. In one of them, From Here to Here, he talks about how awakening to enlightenment is the direct result of freedom from the illusion of the separate, volitional self. In other words, there is no

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You Will Never Feel Secure

The search for something that will make us feel complete can literally never be won. I’m not saying it’s difficult, it will run you ragged, or maybe try something else instead. I’m saying it’s impossible. The idea that something can be missing–the seeking itself–is the illusion of separation. It’s the illusion that there is a

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Is Awareness Enough?

I recently spoke to an amazing group of Rewilding Guides in Angus & Rohini Ross’ Rewilding Training Program. The question that kicked off our discussion was: “Is awareness enough?” What’s not enough to realize freedom, is awareness of some pattern or experience that still looks like “me” or “mine”. This often happens in therapy and

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Unique and Universal

The worries and concerns that flash in awareness–and they truly are just a flashing reflection of images, sounds, and sensations–are unique.  Sometimes they talk about your health or the health of loved ones. Sometimes about money. Often about something being missing, you not measuring up or needing something you appear to not have.  Around this

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Solving Stuff

In the name of protection and survival, minds look for unsettled business they can resolve on your behalf. When you’re lying in bed, unable to sleep, your mind could create any number of happy memories, but it focuses on problems it can solve, as Matthew’s mind was doing. It replays misunderstandings and has conversations with

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Being Divergent

A woman in the LSBC graduate community recently shared an insight she had from the movie Divergent. The characters in the movie are put into simulations where they face their worst fears and need to escape. The protagonist, who is “divergent,” is aware that the situations aren’t real. Everyone else is completely bought into the

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Enjoy the Unfolding

On one level, it definitely appears as if we’re responsible for saying and doing the right things, we have some degree of free will, and we make choices throughout life that matter. And on another level, you have to wonder: How do we do all that? If we have free will over our actions, why

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