The simple analogy that might change everything

When you have a scary thought, it’s really no different than having a nightmare.

Even after a horrible nightmare, when you wake up and realize it’s not real, the emotion begins to fade pretty quickly. There might be some lingering emotion into the morning, but rarely much.

“It was just a nightmare, it’s not real” is something you might say.

What if you substitute the word THOUGHT for NIGHTMARE in that phrase? What if we treated thought the same way we treat nightmares?

In my understanding, they are exactly the same.

If you are having a nightmare that your house is burning down and you’re running around frantically trying to same everyone, and then you wake up and realize it was just a dream, your heart is still pumping and you might be freaked out for a while…

But you don’t jump out of bed and herd everyone outside. There is no need to act on it because it’s not real.

And there is no need to act on all your negative thoughts. Just because the thoughts like “I might lose my job” or “The kids might get hurt” float into your mind, they don’t necessarily require action. They don’t necessitate elaboration or worry or warning or precautions.

They are just thought—they aren’t real.


Become Your Own Habit-Free Success Story!

The Little School of Big Change is a guided, 6-week program designed to help you overcome anxiety and unwanted habits without needing to rely on willpower or self-discipline.

Learn More

Get The Little Book of Big Change

You already have the power to end your habits and live the life you want. In The Little Book of Big Change, I help you see yourself and your habits in a way that leads to deep, lasting freedom.

Buy The Book