Can you imagine?
If you knew for certain that nothing in the external world—not partners, jobs, kids, houses, money, how you look, what you say, think, or do with your time—had a significant impact on your internal world—how you feel and your experience of life on this planet—then what?
Some people get really existential about it, wondering: if the external stuff doesn’t produce the internal stuff, what’s the point in doing anything?
If life were like a puzzle to solve, where lining up the right people and circumstances means you win the success and happiness lottery, that would make sense. But I don’t believe that’s the point of life, do you?
It’s not that you wouldn’t still want things or do things.
You’d still have preferences, desires, things you love and things you can’t stand, but not because they make a noteworthy difference to your overall life, just because that’s how you feel.
While some go in that existential direction, others experience overwhelming peace and freedom when they consider this model of life. For them, knowing that they can do anything they want in the external world and that none of it will have a significant impact on their internal world is the definition of freedom.
As you’ve probably guessed, I strongly suspect that what I’m asking you to imagine is 100% true, 100% of the time.
As I experiment with this perspective myself, I’m finding incredible freedom in it. I’m finding a natural falling away of things I don’t want to do, but that I once would have done anyway because I thought they mattered.
I’m also finding that since that outside stuff doesn’t ultimately make my life better or worse, it’s near impossible to find things to worry about.
That’s my experience, but I’d love for you to discover your own. Try it on as an experiment if you’re open to an easier, more worry-free way of life:
Live as if nothing in the outer world could possibly impact your inner world. While some external conditions may be nice and some may not, none of them will have a direct impact on the quality of your inner life.
Let me know what you discover.