The statement “what were you thinking?!” is very different than the question “what were you thinking?”
The statement “what were you thinking?!” says: you’re crazy, you’re wrong, you clearly were not thinking, you should have done things differently.
The question “what were you thinking?” says: help me understand where you’re coming from…
(And look around while you’re there! Born Happy is a great new-ish site about the Innate Health understanding)