EP195: When this message sounds cold and insensitive

I often talk about how all suffering comes from thought taken as truth. That can sometimes be heard as cold or insensitive.

It looks to me like there are three primary misunderstandings at play when this message is heard in this way. Three things that are not what’s being said, but are how it is commonly heard. 

1. It can be heard as negating experience (e.g., If my suffering is made of thought, you’re saying it’s not real, true, or valid) 

2. It’s sometimes heard as me saying one’s experience should, or even could, be different from what it is (e.g., If this is thought, you’re saying I could just think differently and have a different experience).

3. It can be heard as if one’s experience is one’s fault. (e.g., If my experience is thought, I’m guilty of creating it). Or, similarly, as if it lets others off the hook (e.g., if a Ukrainian’s experience is thought, Putin is off the hook). 

These are very common and very understandable. And none of them are what’s being said. 

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