Category: Archives (before mid-2012)

You’re Doing Exactly What you Want to do

I hear a lot of people say that they want to do things they’re not doing.I say they don’t really want to do those things. They only think they want to.Like, you might say, “I’d really want to write a book” or “I’d love to be a long-distance runner” but if you don’t write and

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Guilt is the Love of Staying Stuck

Guilt is an interesting emotion, isn’t it? It’s the same as regret, basically, except guilt involves an extra dose of “I suck” that plain old regret doesn’t always have.  Guilt is choosing to feel badly about something that’s done and over. Arguing with reality because you chose to believe it should have of went down

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stuck, STUCK, Stuck

I can’t tell you how many people tell me each week they’re stuck. It’s probably the most common complaint I hear. Although I know it’s annoying, I first clarify that although they might feel stuck, they are not actually stuck. Unless you sat on spilled super glue or stepped into quicksand, you’re not really.Everything is

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How to Believe in Your Positive Qualities

In the newsletter a few weeks back I told you was reading a book called The Shadow Effect. “Shadow work” is relatively common in the self-help world…it’s about delving into and coming to fully embrace your shadow parts. Your shadow parts are similar to what you might think of as flaws or faults but that’s

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Truth or “La, la, la”?

We were at dinner with friends the other night—our friends (another couple) and their teenage daughter. Our friends had just returned from a vacation where they left both teenage daughters at home. I asked the one that was having dinner with us, “So did you and your sister throw some wild parties while your parents

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The Truth About Drama

Do you attract drama?If you have a lot of drama-filled people or situations in your life, I’m going to say something you won’t like.    It might be time to look in the mirror. Yes, they may be crazy. I totally give you that. It may honestly, without a doubt, be all their stuff that’s coming

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Is it Good for you?

Life is good. Like, really good. Happy and joyful and awesome.15 years ago, I would’ve never believed it could be like this.  Bobby McFerrin singing “Don’t worry be happy” went right over my head, but Loverboy’s “Working for the weekend” was on repeat in my boombox.I looked right past all those yellow smiley face t-shirts

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How old do you Feel?

This is one of my favorite questions.Particularly when someone (me included) is feeling scared or overwhelmed.  How old do you feel right now?When you’re looking at a pile of stuff to put away and a list of stuff to do and you can’t bring yourself to do just one thing, how old do you feel?If

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Releasing it? Or Avoiding it?

My client Patty says she’s afraid of conflict.She often runs away and avoids speaking up in the hopes that her problems go away on their own. She doesn’t call it running away though. She calls it turning the other cheek. She tells me she’s being Enlightened.I correct her. Don’t lie to yourself, Patty. It’s running.

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