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Repeat

We just visited my mother-in-law who has dementia. Her long-term memory is enough that she recognizes us. But she has very little short-term memory, which means she repeats the same few things over and over. She’ll talk about how big the kids are and ask them what they’ve been up to this summer. Then her

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You and Your Mind in a Pandemic

When your mind gets wind of the uncertainty inherent in life—how fragile and temporary and not-at-all guaranteed it all is—it can get a little restless. Your sweet little mind thinks that it knowing how things will go is what keeps you safe. Your mind has no idea there is a space, a moment, a now,

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Big Change this Year is About Seeing More, Not Doing More

It’s amazing how things change.  Thirteen years ago, I rang in 2006 with a group of friends in Chicago. We had tickets to an event that included a four course meal followed by a night of drinking and club-hopping. Early in the second course of our dinner, I started to feel sick. I managed to

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EP17: How Life is Providing Constant Feedback

Do you know what your feelings are showing you? If they provide feedback that guides us through life, do you know how to read that feedback? The Old Paradigm had it wrong. It taught us to read our feelings in a way that actually isn’t accurate; a way that has created endless confusion and complication

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EP16: The Anatomy of Anxiety

In this episode, I share Sherry’s story. Sherry experienced a lot of anxiety. And a lot of anxiety and fear of her anxiety. As she began to see more about who she really is and what her thoughts and feelings really are, she was far less afraid of her  feelings. Anxiety as a chronic, habitual

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EP14: Is it Okay to Use Tools and Techniques? Or Am I Supposed to Do Nothing?

In this episode, I clear up some confusion. You see, in the Old Paradigm in psychology, there is A LOT to do. It’s a full time job, turning thoughts around and breathing just so and riding waves of emotion…making sense of the past and meaning for the future, and processing…well, whatever people process. In the

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EP13: How Achievement, Mastery, and Productivity go through the roof in The New Paradigm with Fernanda –Life on Tellus

My guest on today’s episode is Fernanda from Life on Tellus. Fernanda is classic high achiever, as you’ll hear from her shortly. She’s mastered many things in life and she’s just getting started. But all of that achievement used to look necessary, like it was what she had to do to be acceptable. And that

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