EP349: Where does it hurt? Asking the simplest, most direct question

We can all tell our story and it can feel helpful to do so at times. We feel seen and heard, our experience recognized by another person as valid and real-to-us. 

But what seems even more helpful is sharing what’s beneath the story. Going to the simplest, most immediate thing. Something more like how it feels to be us or what’s here right now. 

This week’s episode uses the metaphor of a patient lying in a hospital bed hooked up to machines that start sounding off alarms. The medical team rushes in the room and does what?

Do they go directly to the machines and start pressing buttons, trying to interpret what the alarms mean? Do they discuss those interpretations with each other? 

Or do they go directly to the human in the bed and ask them where it hurts? Do they go to the abstract interpretations or straight to the source? Where do you go? 

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