Change doesn’t happen by trying to change. Trying to change is actually the opposite of what’s helpful. Trying to change thoughts, feelings, behaviors, level of consciousness, or anything else is a rejection of what is. It’s telling life that it got it wrong; that what’s arising should not be. It’s telling life that we’re not okay with
You can lose interest in thought. It’s really not all that difficult. You sit back in and as the formless–in and as the seat of awareness–rather than hooking into temporary forms of thought and feeling. You zoom out to notice that you’re aware of what’s rising and falling rather than zooming in on what’s rising and falling. You’re
I’ve gotten a lot of questions about the difference between welcoming what arises and wallowing in what arises. This welcoming stuff is not a perfect science. Please keep in mind that my words I share around it are not what-to-do, but are pointing you in a general direction. A most important feature of welcoming is curiosity. Curious means
My sister and I used to play with a plastic beach ball in our pool. Between the ball falling into the bristly bushes around the pool and our cat batting it around, it had some tiny holes. Air was leaking, but it was slow. There was plenty of air left for the ball to float, and even
I recently read The Lion Tracker’s Guide to Life by Boyd Varty. Trackers find a first track that piques their interest and follow it until they can’t anymore. Sometimes they lose the track, or the track simply stops. When that happens, they find another first track and follow that one until they can’t anymore. They don’t know where
As I talk about leaning into what’s arising with so many people lately, a funny thing keeps showing up. They lean into what’s arising and realize that something their mind labels boredom is at the center. They see that their minds are flailing about, keeping habits alive, and working in overdrive to prevent them from feeling bored. Wait,
Everything you experience and everything you see in the world around you is filtered through the often invisible, yet incredibly powerful lens of me-and-my-life. For starters, it looks like there is a you, separate from life, having a life. It looks like there is a you, separate from life, to whom good, bad, wanted and unwanted
A habit or ongoing problem, by definition, requires memory. It requires a brain that pulls ideas, concepts, and memories through time and draws sweeping conclusions about them. A brain that says, “This thing happened in the past, so I assume it’ll happen again in the future.” Without a past and future conversation, there’s just Now. Anything that’s
It can look like we’re responsible for making things happen. Life looks like our responsibility. Our outcomes, including our own peace of mind, happiness, and anything we want to change, appear to be up to us to figure out. But what if change is not up to us? What if human minds love to take credit for things,
Suffering is feedback, showing us that we’re attached to ideas and thoughts that appear true, but aren’t. For example, when you believe you’re not good enough or life should be other than how it is, you suffer. That suffering is alerting you to your identification with a fleeting, false idea. Like suffering, habits and anxiety are
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