Tag: enlightened

What’s Not Said

For everything that’s said, there are a million things unsaid. Two people I know of died recently. I wanted to tell Holly’s husband and children how much I liked and admired their wife and mom. How peaceful and calm and scared and human she was. But I didn’t. I wanted to tell Angel that I

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Overcoming Perfectionism: Perfect or F*&k It

This is a repost of a video blog I filmed back in November of 2010. That’s old. And I filmed it in my car, waiting to go into the dentist. But that imperfect style is the point, as  you’ll see… Here’s a purposely imperfect post dedicated to my awesome client whose family story is “Perfect or

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The truth about drama

Do you attract drama? If you have a lot of drama-filled people or situations in your life, I’m going to say something you won’t like.   It might be time to look in the mirror. Yes, they may be crazy. I totally give you that. It may honestly, without a doubt, be all their stuff that’s

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Releasing it? Or Avoiding it?

My client Patty says she’s afraid of conflict. She often runs away and avoids speaking up in the hopes that her problems go away on their own. She doesn’t call it running away though. She calls it turning the other cheek. She tells me she’s being Enlightened. I correct her. Don’t lie to yourself, Patty.

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Are your requests really unreasonable?

I recently wrote an article for my eZine on non-attachment. In it, I tell the story of a client who decided to live the motto, “What will be, will be”. Empowering, right? Well, sort of. He took that laid-back, wait and watch stance to mean that he should stop choosing, stop creating, and start reacting. Reacting rather than

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Lucky You

I just saw an article about a man in Missouri who won the lottery…twice. Two separate lotteries, a few months apart. He says he’s lucky. Are you? Where do you think luck comes from? Is it in your genes or based on your star sign or the result of karma? Do we play any part

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Much More to Presence

Mindfulness is what we practice to cultivate presence. Presence is the state of being totally immersed in what’s right in front of us. The perk of presence that I usually focus on is that fear, worry, negative thoughts fall away. This is because those things do not exist in the Now. They are completely and

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Sitting with Negative Emotion

I feel something quite a bit. I call it bored, although I know that’s not really it. Restless, maybe. But it feels worse than restless. Uncomfortable in my own skin. Like it’s dangerous or just really unpleasant to Be Me in that moment. It’s a restlessness that makes me want to move, be busy, disassociate,

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How do you win?

Every family has a way of keeping score. Often unspoken—but sometimes blatantly official—there are rules for what’s good and bad; what’s right and wrong. I call it The Family Game. Each family has their own game and they make up the rules for how you win. The rules are passed down from generation to generation.

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