Just because you can doesn’t mean you should

Here’s something I’ve been re-learning lately: Just because I can doesn’t mean I should. 

Just because I can get up to exercise at 6 every morning does not mean I should.

Just because I can work until midnight does not mean I should.

Let this be the new anthem of the good-girl. The perfectionist, over-achiever, must-do-more junkie: Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

I have to know my own Why, let my own values and priorities and emotions…especially emotions…guide the way.

I could do a million things that look good and sound good but do they feel good? And even if they feel good, are they worth it? There are always trade-offs.

If I lived on a deserted island, free of the opinions of others, would I want those things?

If no one ever told me I should strive to be my best, would I want those things?

Just because I can doesn’t mean I should.

Accepting that I can but I don’t have to means I let myself off the hook for all the shoulds. It involves a decision—yes, a conscious choice—to be fine now, not when or if….

Because this lesson is showing up big in my life right now, I’m noticing it left and right with my clients. Care to join us?

Just because she can—in theory—catch every spec of dust in the house doesn’t mean she should.  She has to ask herself: to whom is this dustless home really important?

Just because he can make $167,000 plus bonuses in a job that’s not perfect doesn’t mean he should.  He asks himself: Is it worth it to me?

Just because she can starve herself into a size 2 doesn’t mean she should. She has to ask herself: is deprivation a sensible trade-off for this ideal?

Just because you can doesn’t mean you should. What’s really worth it to you?

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